Life is full of uncertainties. That is the universal truth. We can choose to acknowledge it or to allow the fear of uncertainties to run our lives.
What do you do about it?
“Each time you stay present with fear and uncertainty, you’re letting go of a habitual way of finding security and comfort. ”
The one question I often got asked after I got married last year - was “How’s marriage life? Any difference?”
My default answer was the "Same same because we’ve been together for 8 year already-lar."
My mind was screaming - “No it’s not going the same anymore because I’ve got to move to the UK. “
When I should have been excited……………… I was scared shitless.
And so I hid the truth.
A lot of people (including my family) didn’t know that I was moving.
The irony is that I’ve always wanted to live and work overseas, and when this dream manifested itself, I suddenly had cold feet.
It’s not that I don’t want to relocate; I wanted a little bit more time. To get used to the idea. I guess.
In my head, I was saying too myself:
I’m too old. You mean I have to uproot my entire 40 years to a new country? What about my Baptiste yoga community that I’ve tried so hard to build up? The UK migration law (and process) is too hard. What about me? I have to throw away everything that I have? What about my mum? Our relationship was getting better. How can I tell her? I’m too old to make a change!
But really I’m simply I’m letting my fear rule my thoughts. The fear of the unknown - that scared the hell out of me.
“Fear is often our immediate response to uncertainty. There’s nothing wrong with experiencing fear. They key is not to get stuck in it. ”
The chaos in my mind got me present to one thing -
PRESENCE
The past year has taught me more about BEING in the present moment than in my last 4 years of practising yoga.
Instead of simply being a concept, it became my practice.
The future has not happened yet, why should I worry - right?
“if you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back to pain and regret. ”
I focused on attention on what’s in front of me - creating a new life with my husband who loves me lots, who himself puts others before him. I want to be like him.
My favourite from my wise husband - “God will not give me more than I can handle. “
Have faith that everything will be ok and if it’s not ok, you will be ok.
“Faith means living with uncertainty - feeling your way through life, letting your heart guide you like a lantern in the dark. ”
Have Faith and be present
That’s my answer - to overcome any fear of uncertainty.
Get out of your head.
You have the courage to face your fear and uncertainty.
Be a yes to stay in the present moment.
Change is good!
Say 5 great things about what’s going to happen instead of millions of what-ifs.
HAVE FAITH AND BE PRESENT.
“Faith is not the absence of doubt; it is the presence of belief.”
ASIDE….
You’ve probably guessed that we are not moving after all.
Singapore - you are stuck with me, for a little while longer.
I think the universe is having a right laugh at me though. Perhaps it’s training me to practice being present.
Even right now, everything is uncertain - I used to need to have my WHAT’S NEXT for me.
But right now, I’m committed to being right HERE, with my husband, my family and my peeps.
I count my blessings.
I found gratitude.
I re-started my meditation practice, which till today is still ongoing; not perfect but perfect for right now.
By getting present, I discovered my own empathy.
I changed the words I say to myself.
I am ready to face changes that is going to happen in my life.
I AM EXCITED about not knowing what’s going on in my future. And I CAN be OK not knowing.
I can do this.
I got this.