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To my IVF sisters
Happy Nearly Mother's Day
It's a bit late, and yet it's never too late.
Truth - We are not mothers yet.
Truth - Between you and me and other infertility warriors out there, we probably have millions of embryos and blastocysts - "not ready to be born", or "it’s not their time."
Truth - The future is so uncertain and at times, hopeless.
Truth - I've “borne” over 30 embryos and had 9 blastocysts implanted in my womb.
Those 9 blastocysts came from my body, okay, even if required additional help. That makes me nearly a mother. They all have their own secret baby names. One lucky one stayed for a good 7 weeks, and, well, it's just not her time.
Yes, we are not mothers of our own babies yet, but we are mothers in our own way……….since we made that decision to start the IVF journey……… when we choose to take care of ourselves, so we can be prepared physically, mentally and emotionally……… when we prepare our husband’s supplements every morning. We suffered the same losses as every women who’s experienced miscarriages.
We have conscious happy thoughts and prayed for our follicles to “grow” big and strong. We talk to our “babies” all the time during the 2WW. Our heart breaks when it’s another negative pregnancy result or when there’s no day 5 blastocyst.
We mother in other ways too, like supporting others in times of need, doing good, being of service, when we teach, when we share our stories, when we hold our nephews and nieces and promise ourselves that they will always be safe with us……… when we care and love too much.
Another definition of mothering is look after (someone) kindly and protectively.
And we are doing so well!!
I hope you don't mind me wishing you Mother's Day because I know in my heart, we are already mothers.
I know we are sad. And it’s okay to be sad.
So I'm going to say this here - so you can say it yourself in your own beautiful heart, with all the sadness and joyfulness in the world -
- Happy mother's Day to me!!
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